Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Christmas 2011

I hope everyone had a great Christmas this year. This was the first year we haven't had any snow on the ground! Kinda crazy. We had a very busy weekend which included 4 Christmas celebrations. Little monster didn't get very long naps either day and was very crabby by the end of the day. She got about 5 new baby dolls and tons of other fun toys to play with. On Monday we spent the day organizing toys and cleaning the house. After all that I got to leave monster will the husband and go grocery shopping all by myself!

We are still trying to get pregnant. I have been taking ovulation tests Tuesday for more than a month and I'm not ovulating at all. I'm not getting my period either. Really not sure what's up with all that. Monster has her 2 year check up tomorrow afternoon so I plan on asking our dr about it then. Hopefully she will be able to help me out little.

If I don't get pregnant in the next couple weeks I'm having surgery on Jan. 13th the remove the sores on my thighs. This will be 1 of at least 4 surgeries to come in my future. I'm ready for this issue to be gone.

I will try to get on the computer later to get some pictures up!

(Sorry if I have a lot of spelling mistakes. I'm doing this on my phone)

Thursday, December 1, 2011

We've Been Busy

Wow it has been a really, really long time since I've written anything here. So here's a little update on our life. Husband is doing really well. He is on a decent medication without millions of crazy side effects. He is doing really well. The little Monster is growing like a weed and is almost 2!! Her birthday party is next weekend, Minnie Mouse themed. She is getting pictures done this Saturday. No idea what she's going to wear yet. Hopefully I can actually get Christmas cards sent out this year!

We are doing pretty good over all. The husband and I are trying to get pregnant. We are going on month 3 of trying and no luck so far. The Monster was an oops, so this whole "trying" thing is new to us. Hoping for it to happen soon. We would love for our kids to be about 3 years apart.

I'm going to try really hard to start blogging regularly. I really like doing it, I just forget about it sometimes. Oh well. What can ya do?

Anyways, that's about all I have for right now...

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Going insane!

Ok so it's been awhile again. Things have been going really well around here. Husband and I Are getting along for the most part. S is fighting some sort of viral infection. Not totally sure what's going on with that.

Daycare is going Ok. I had a 4 year old and an 11 year old start this month. The older one never. stops. talking. He drives me nuts. The other thing that drives me nuts is when parents don't call me when their children aren't coming for the day. Especially when mom just told me yesterday they would be here today and now they haven't shown up or called. Ugh.

Sorry if there are a lot of typos in this post. I got this thing called a smartphone so I'm posting from that because my laptop isn't very portable anymore. The battery won't hold a charge for longer than 30 seconds. So Yeah I am learning all about my smartphone and finding it can do lots of cool things. The battery life on it should be longer though because I use it so much I end up charging it all night and half way through the day. Anyways.

My dad got married almost 2 weeks ago. It was a great day and everyone had a lot of fun. Hmmm what else has been going on around here? Oh yeah my grandparents were up from Florida and got to meet Savannah for the very first time. They loved playing with her and she had fun with them also. We miss them very much and hope to go visit them sometime this winter if it all works out.

I think that's about all I got for right now.

~Kristin

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Is it ever going to cool down?

Ugh I'm SO sick of this heat and humidity!! Tonight S and I are going to the water park in Owatonna to cool down!

Surgery last week went well. My wound is healing really well on its own like it's supposed to.

Corey and I have been getting along for the most part. He is still stressed about us having debt (not very much). But at this point I don't feel like it's a huge concern. So we basically agree to disagree and I'm working on getting everything paid off as soon as possible. He's been in a fairly good mood lately too. We had the never-ending argument about how since he works out of the home he shouldn't have to do any housework because I work at home. Well sorry buddy, but that's not how things work around here! I can't take care of S, do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry, bill paying all the time by myself. I can't even rely on him to take care of S, ever. It's gotten a little ridiculous. We also disagree on all this and I have no idea how to get it through to him that I don't like being a single parent. If that's what I wanted I would have never gotten married to him! I'm not his maid, I shouldn't have to clean up after him. If he wants his laundry washed and dried he can throw it down the laundry shoot. That's right, we have a laundry shoot. Where do his dirty clothes end up? On the living room floor. After he has cereal every morning and spills milk all over the counter he can wipe it up! Ugh drives me freaking nuts!

Anyways, we also fought about going to counseling. Insurance isn't covering it because its considered a pre-existing condition since he was diagnosed as bi-polar before we started this insurance. Since they're not covering, Corey says we can't go because he doesn't want to pay for it. Ugh...if we don't go our marriage issues will never be resolved because he won't tell me what's going on!

Oh well. I guess we'll figure something out. Eventually.

Ohmygosh! Biggest news ever, my dad is getting married on July 30th 2011!!!! I am SO excited for him and his soon-to-be-wife! I will have 2 step-sisters and 2 step-brothers and 1 nephew and 1 on the way and 2 nieces!!! I'm so happy for my dad!

~Kristin

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Holiday Weekend

It's been a few days since I have posted anything. We've actually been a little busy. Sunday the Husband and I talked a little and he did end up going to the parade with S and me. S got scared of the marching band so I gave her part of a Tootsie Roll and what do ya know? She gagged on it and threw up. all. over. me. No lie. All. Over. Me. We watched 20 minutes of the parade and then had to leave so S and I could go home and shower! Anyways... after we got all cleaned up we went out to the cabin. That was nice. Except all the mosquitoes! They were horrible. So we spent a majority of the night on the pontoon. Husband and I got along. For the most part. We brought S's pack n play but of course she wouldn't sleep in it.

Monday I went to BP and got my tattoo touched up by Katie while Husband and S took a nap. When I got home we just hung out for a while and ended up at bil's house for a fire and a few drinks later in the night. Nope, we didn't go to fire works. We wanted to just stick close to home for the night.

Husband and I have been getting along pretty well since Monday. Hopefully things continue this way. If not, I will cry! Like always. I guess there isn't much else to report tonight, just wanted to give a little update on the weekend.

Oh yeah, went to the doctor on Tuesday. Was told I'm having minor surgery next Thursday to have the core of a sore removed in my arm. It's about damn time the do something about this. It's only been a problem for 10 years!!! So yeah next week might not have many updates! Sorry.

~Kristin

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Tired.

I'm tired. Tired of doing everything alone. Tired of raising my (our?) daughter alone. Tired of being alone. Tired of going places alone. Tired of doing everything around the house alone.

Why?

Because my husband is bi-polar. My husband is bi-polar and sleeps all day long and is awake all night. He doesn't wake up to spend time with S or me. He sleeps and sleeps and sleeps and goes to work. When he's not at work he is sleeping. Hmmm and he wonders why I'm being a bitch to him. I don't know what to do. I'm so frustrated. I'm so alone. I need a weekend away. Far, far away. Is that possible? Probably not. So for now I guess S and I will go to the parade tonight and attempt to have fun. Alone.

~Kristin

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

18 Month Check-Up and ER Visit

Well, S had her 18 month check-up on Monday. She had been running a fever since Sunday night so she didn't get her shots. The Dr thought the fever was from teething or a virus. S is growing like she should, and doing all the things she should be doing so the Dr was very pleased!

On Tuesday S still had a fever and hadn't been drinking or peeing very much. I took her into Urgent Care to have her checked out again. No ear infection. No strep. Hmmm. So Dr in UC said to give her anti-nausea pills and wait 2 hours, if she doesn't drink or pee in 2 hours take her to the ER for fluids if she needs them. 2 hours later we were sitting in the ER. They took blood, got a urine sample with a catheter that she HATED, and strapped her into this crazy machine to take chest x-rays. We waited around the ER for 2.5 hours and found out S has a UTI. Poor baby girl :( Got her on some good anti-biotics and today she is already doing better! She has been drinking and peeing and has actually been happy and playing! Yay!

Husband is doing well also. He decided to start taking his Wellbutrin that the Dr prescribed him a couple weeks ago and it seems like its helping. He was in a pretty good mood today! The city people came by the house today to dig up our front yard to find our main water shut off. I now have a 4 foot hole in my front yard...yay! Hopefully no one falls in it. Ha!

~Kristin

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Good Weekend

I've had a pretty good weekend. Yesterday my little sisters turned 7 so we had a party for them. They got a lot of presents and we all had a great time. S spent the weekend at Grandma and Papa's house. She had a blast! Lawn mower rides, pontoon rides, fishing, playing in the playhouse and chasing around the big girls. Oh and learning to go DOWN the steps on her own. Ugh she is going to give me a heart attack! She's growing up way too fast!

Husband had to work last night. I texted him a couple times and he actually texted me back! It wasn't a very long conversation but it was something. On my way home I got pulled over because my tail light was out. He just told me to get it fixed. Husband woke me up this morning around 4am while he was banging around in the kitchen. I got up and went to the bathroom and got a drink and asked Husband to fix my tail light before he comes to bed so I didn't get pulled over again. He did. He also left me a note telling me to not wake him to go to his parents house to get S in the morning. So I didn't. He also wants me to call the clinic for him tomorrow and try to get his appointment scheduled sooner. Not gonna happen. I left him the phone numbers to call, if he wants it changed he can do it himself. I need to stop enabling him and do things for myself now.

So this morning I got up and went to get S. Then we went to Owatonna and had Chinese for lunch with Megan and RaShia and then went grocery shopping. S is sleeping now then we will head outside since it is gorgeous out! That's all for now!

~Kristin

Friday, June 24, 2011

My Day Off

Today is going to be a fabulous day! I have the day off. In case anyone is wondering, I run a daycare in my home and it just so happens I don't have any kids today! Woo Hoo!!!! S just had a bath and is taking her morning nap. I'm doing a little blogging then going to shower. When S wakes up we'll have lunch then head to Owatonna. I'm having Katie touch up my tattoo at 1pm and then Megan, S, R, and Mary are going shopping in Medford! Old Navy is having a pre-sale of their tank tops for $2! How can you beat that! Especially with a limit of 10. Ha! I LOVE Old Navy's tank tops! After shopping we might take the girls to a park and play for awhile and then we'll see what the night brings.

The Husband has to work tonight so it will just be me and S. Grandpa called yesterday and wants S to spend the night with the rest of the girls tomorrow night and maybe tonight too. That will be fun for her! Well I'm off to get ready for the day!

~Kristin

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Another Missed Appointment

So I reminded the Husband yesterday that he had a dentist appointment today at 1pm. Well It is now almost 3pm and he is still in bed sleeping. This ALWAYS happens. If I don't wake him for appointments he misses them. I'm not his mommy. I'm his wife. He is capable of setting an alarm clock and getting up and going to appointments on his own. Why doesn't he get this? I don't know, but I will not allow him to depend on me for the things he is capable of doing on his own anymore. This is just one of the many things I will be working on not doing for him. Although, when the dentist office called wondering where he was I did reschedule the appointment for him. And I will write it on the calendar and tell him about it. I will not, however, be waking him up to make sure he gets there, or anywhere else for that matter, on time.

On a good note, I have tonight off work. S and I will find something fun to do hopefully and maybe get outta the house for a while since its been rainy and nasty here all week. Husband gets paid tomorrow so bills will also be paid! Yay! It feels good to get bills paid on time. Yeah, we might be a little short on cash next week but we will survive! That's all I have for now, shopping in Medford tomorrow with friends, my twin sisters' 7th bday party on Saturday night. Should be a good weekend!

~Kristin

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Using again?

I'm starting to think the Husband is using pot again. All of a sudden he's eating chips and salsa at 3am when he gets home from work. And this morning he got up at 8:30, had a bowl of cereal and went back to bed. These are things he did was he was using. Do I know for sure if he is doing this? Nope. Am I OK with not knowing? Nope. I hate not being in control of my thoughts. I hate always thinking my Husband is mad at me or lying to me. How do I get away from this kind of thinking? I have no idea but I found some books online that might help me find the answer. So I'm off to the bookstore to *hopefully* find a couple books to start reading to help me through this rough time.

*Update
I bought the book Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. I have read the first 4 chapters and already know this book is really going to help me. Earlier in the day I text the husband and asked if he was mad at me since he still hasn't spoken to me since Sunday night. His response was "this is not the time, nor the place to describe how I feel..." I responded "Can you at least tell me what's going on, I'm worried about you." His response "Nope...I need r help telling the Drs what I'm like without the correct meds...Hold on for the ride! I love u!" My response " So you would rather put me through hell than talk to me and tell me what's going on?" His response "Yep, this is all about u...Yak..." My response "I never said this was all about me but damn don't you care about how I'm feeling at all? I care about how you're feeling and I want to help where I can but if you don't talk to me how am I supposed to know how to help you?" His response: NOTHING. There ya have it folks. He obviously doesn't want my help bad enough to want to talk to me. Well that's all for tonight. I need to get some sleep since I will be getting up with S at 6:30 am.

~Kristin

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Rough Days

The last few days have been pretty rough around here. Corey had a bad day at work on Saturday. He left his phone at home so I had no way of getting ahold of him to talk to him about our plans for the night. He called me from work at about 7pm. We discussed the plans of going to the Medford street dance and he mentioned he had a bad day. I didn't really press for any more information at that point since he had to get back to work. When he got home around 8:30 he was very crabby. We got in the van and he was just being weird and I suggested we just stay home.

We ended up going to the street dance for about an hour then went to pick up S and went home. I went to bed because I would have to get up with S at 6:30am and Corey went out to the lake. After he left I sent him a text saying that if he was going out there to use again I would find out. We haven't spoken much since then.

Sunday was Father's Day. Corey's parents and brother, and my dad and brother all came over and we grilled burgers for lunch. The day overall was good, but Corey was in a crappy mood all day. I left the house at about 4:30 and went to supper with Kathy and then we went to the Al-anon meeting at 7. It was a good meeting and I was in a great mood when we left there. Then I got home about 10pm and there was Corey, sitting in the dark, watching TV, grumpy. I tried to have a conversation with him but all I got was one word answers.

Yesterday was Monday. Corey slept until 3pm. Got up, got ready for work and went back to sleep in the chair in the living room. When he got up to go to work he left without saying goodbye to me and S. I tried texting him a couple times to see how his night was going and I got no response.

Today he said "bye honey" to me before he left for work and that was it. Hasn't called me, texted me or said anything more to me today. I am at the point now where I will not be the one to start the conversation. Call me childish, but every time he gets into funks like this, its always me trying to fix it and make him happy. He needs to choose his own attitudes and I need to choose mine. I'm hoping he will get outta this funk soon and we can move on. I feel bad for not helping him and doing things for him but at the same time, when I do those things I am being an enabler and I don't need to do that anymore.

Well I think that's enough for tonight. I'm sure I'll have more to tell tomorrow. Until then...

Kristin

The Beginning

Welcome to my blog. I have never done this before, so here goes nothing.

July 31st. 2006 was mine and Corey's first date. We dated for a year and a half before getting engaged in March of 2008. Corey and I got along great. We had a lot of fun together and understood each other. So I thought. On April 18th 2009 we got married. It was a wonderful day! All of our family was there and the rain held off until after the wedding. That night after we got home I learned something about Corey that would forever change our lives. He was addicted to marijuana. I know, I know, could be something worse right? Yeah, thats true but this is an illegal drug and he was addicted to it, not just using it randomly. The monday after our wedding we left for Mexico for a week. We had many ups and downs during the week. I was still in shock from learning about the pot use and was just having a hard time dealing with it.

We made it throught the next couple months. On June 22nd, 2009 my best friend Karen had her first child! A little girl! So adorable, I was in love with her and wanted a baby myself so bad. One week later on June 29th 2009 I went to the doctor to get meds for a UTI (tmi, sorry). It is standard practice for the dr to do a pregnancy test so they give you the right meds. Well the dr came in and said the pregnancy test was positive. I was scared, nervous, happy, excited, terrified, and sick all at the same time. I seriously almost threw up on the dr's lap!

So the dr wrote me a script for porenatal vitamins and I took them to Cash Wise and had them filled. While I was waiting I called my bff Karen and told her the news (yes, before I even told Corey). I didn't want to tell Corey over the phone but I HAD to tell someone. I called Corey and made sure he was going to be home when I got there. He could tell something was up, but had no idea what. I pulled up in the driveway and he was sitting in a chair in the garage. I pulled out my bottle of prenatal vitamins and handed them to him. It took him a minute to realize what they were and that I was pregnant. We were both in shock! That night we went to Albert Lea and told my parents. The next night we had supper with Corey's parents and told them. Our families were very excited! So were we!

My due date was March 6th 2010. In late October 2009 I had the big ultrasound and the dr determined we would be having a little girl! I was SO happy to have a girl! Corey was too. I started to have a lot of swelling in my feet and hands at the beginning of December and was put on restrictions at work. I was only allowed to work 4 hours a day and couldn't lift anything over 15lbs. By the middle of December I had so much swelling that my ears were being plugged and I couldn't hear. I thought I had an ear infection so I went to the dr and they gave me meds. A week later work was shut down for the Christmas break. I went back to the dr because my ears were worse. The nurse checked my blood pressure and it was 152/92. Extremely high. At that point they weren't worried about my ears. I was wheeled to the hospital and monitored for awhile. I gave a urine sample and I had protien in my urine. I was given the option of going to Rochester or to the Cities because I was only 29 weeks pregnant. I chose Rochester. I was immediately started on an iv drip of magnesium to prevent seizures and strokes and given a shot in my butt of steriods to help the baby's lungs mature. I was taken to Rochester by ambulance and Corey met us over there in the truck. I was admitted to Rochester's Labor and Delivery unit at the Methodist hospital right away. They monitored me for a day and a hlaf and determined I had Severe Pre-eclampsia. They needed to take the baby out as soon as possible. On December 24th 2009, Savannah was born at 12:14 pm via c-section. She weighed 2lbs. 9oz. and was 15 inches long. She was born at 30 weeks gestation.

Savannah was intubated and taken to St. Mary's NICU in Rochester. She spent a total of 8 weeks and 3 days in the NICU. While Savannah was in the hospital I lived at the Ronald McDonald house so I could be with her every day. Corey moved into our new house in January 2010 and went to work during the week then stayed in Rochester with me and Savannah on the weekends.

February 8th 2010, Corey went to work and ended up leaving early because the weather was bad. Once he got home he started drinking and using pot. He had a mental breakdown that night. Corey called an ambulance and was taken to the Mental Unit at Owatonna Hospital. This is where he was diagnosed as Bi-polar. Savannah was still in the hospital in Rochester so I had to be in 2 places at once which wasn't working very well.

Savannah was released from St. Mary's on February 21st, 2010. Corey was still in the mental unit in Owatonna so we stopped there to visit him. After spending 3 weeks in the mental unit Corey was released to Fountain Treatment center in Albert Lea for alcohol and chemical dependecy. Since then He has been on numerous medications and none of them seem to be working. This is my blog to write about what goes on around here on a day to day basis and to help me cope with my emotions.

Thanks for reading.